When I am usually referring to "THAT GIRL" I am generally referring to the annoying, screechy, fake boobed barbie girl that fake tans and drinks cranberry vodkas or AMFs. I never thought I'd utter or write the words "I wanna be THAT girl" but in this case it's different....
How does one become the kind of girl that makes the guy WANT to be in a relationship? What do THOSE girls have that I don't? Is there a certain quality about me (or lack of quality) that makes me just the fun chick to hang with rather than the "I didn't know what I was missing before I met you" kind of girl?
I tend to be the girl right before the guy meets "the one"; he hangs with me and has fun but never wants to label the relationship. Just wants to "hang" and "have fun". We end up fizzling out quietly and the next girl he meets changes his mind about relationships and he jumps head first into a Facebook Official "thing".
So I am asking, "Why not me"? Why do I always attract the non-commital types? The ones who are "busy with work right now" or "just out of a relationship and don't want to jump into another". The "I'm not looking for anything serious", "Let's just hang out and see where it goes", "I have plans for the next 3 weekends, I'll hook-up with you when I get back"or "I don't really have time for a girlfriend" guys....
I want to be the girl that changes a guys' mind about relationships and if I am "so awesome" and "fun" and "witty", "gorgeous", "smart", "talented", etc. etc. as I always hear from these guys, why am I NOT that girl? If there is chemistry, humor and hobbies in common, I don't understand why I wouldn't be THAT girl. What takes it from a casual "let's just let it play out" hang out occasionally thing into a full fledged relationship?
Back in the day, you like a guy and he likes you, you date. The end. He is your boyfriend until you decide he isn't anymore. There isn't a probation period where he gets to date you and gets all the perks without any of the commitment. This isn't a temp to hire position; there isn't (or shouldnt) be a trial run. I like to give one guy my 100% and it is hard to do when he is only giving 20% at most until he decides to be all in; but what is the incentive for him to be all in if I am giving him all I have? At the same time, if I don't give him all I have to offer, why would he want to be all in? I'm tellin' you; dating these days is just down right BANANAS!
What special diet, regiment or procedure do I have to under take to become THAT GIRL just once?!!?
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