12/27/2010: The End of An Era?

As of 1/4/2010 My subscription to Match.com will be over. I didn't have a whole lot of luck on the site, but through it have made a couple new friends and had some interesting stories to write about...

Seeing as it is (almost) the beginning of a new year, I figured I would not renew the membership on Match and I also deleted my account on okcupid.com...

I started this blog in December of 2009, one year ago and I have yet to find any real connection...Hopefully 2011 will be better for me in the love dept.

I still have my POF account, but am not checking it often. Perhaps once a week or so, and if someone strikes my attention, I may meet and write about it, but dating will no longer (for now at least) be a priority in my life. Obviously over 100 dates in one year is not the way to go and if I am to find someone truly special, I need to stop looking and trying so hard....so...for those that read this "frequently" or "often", you may want to change to "sometimes". :)

Just sayin'.

12/14/2010: Mr. Tour Guide

Mr. Tour Guide and I had been met on Match.com and had been talking for some time before we finally met. mostly through texting. It took awhile for our schedules to line up to find time to meet, especially sine I had been sick for so long at the end of November and beginning of December...

At the beginning, Mr. Tour Guide wanted to take me kayacking up North...but being the super jadded, super paranoid dater I am, I quickly turned him down! Then he asked if he could take me hiking...uh, no! You may as well ask if I want to be raped and murdered!...Still trying after the (kinda harsh) rejections I was giving him, he persisted and agreed to a nice normal activity...like ice skating.

Meeting half way, we decided to try Ventura. I thought I knew exactly where the rink was, but it turns out I didn't. I can usually see it from the freeway, but on the night we decided to meet around 4:30, I couldn't see anything and ended up in the abandoned Wagon Wheel area...Turns out, the lights were all out on the sign that I knew that read "ICE SKATING" which you can normally see from the freeway! Ugh, go figure.

I finally make it there right around 5. (Don't worry, I was in contact with Mr. Tour Guide so he knew I got lost)...

When I arrived, we come to find out that public skating is over at 5pm. From 5 on they had hockey leagues and figure skating only...so that is 2 strikes against this date already!...

Not breaking any of my rules, I follow him in my own car to Golf N Stuff...(I had just been here the other night with a friend too, HA!)

The place was a ghost town! (Granted, it WAS a Tuesday!)....

He pays for both of us to drive the go karts, one round of mini golf and 4 tokens each.

The go karts were awesome. Not very fast there, but still fun (only cause I won). The game of golf started off slow, but ended up being fun still. I then kicked his ass at Buck Hunting AND skee-ball, so I was having a great night. LOL

From there, we drove over to BJ's for a lite dinner and drinks. (In our own cars, of course)...

It was a nice evening, with a rocky beginning.

Afterwards we said our good byes, a quick hug and off we went.

Me. Tour Guide is a couple years younger then me, but I couldnt tell. Until I got a text a couple days later. We were going to meet up again that following weekend but he decided last minute to go to Vegas with some buddies instead. typical of a younger guy not ready for a real relationship. I would think if you really liked a girl (at any age, really) that you would do whatever it took to get her to like you back and build a relationship...Am I wrong?

Well, anyways, he texted me Merry Xmas over a week later....but I am sure it was a mass text. Evidentally he wasn't that into me. How, I dunno...cause I am pretty awesome ;)

Maybe I should have let him win one game? ...NAH!

:D

12/12/2010: Mr. BB

Before I even thought of having a blog, and perhaps one of the reasons I did was Mr. BB (Before Blog).

He was a great looking guy but a musician and street artist. Very talented, very attractive (did I already say that? oops..) but he had lured me into a false sense of  hope when I decided to meet him back in like September 2009. When we did meet up, he told me he wasn't looking for anything serious, he just wanted to have "FUN", which in guy code means No Strings Attached SEX!...Obviously I politely declined and off on his way he went.

Well, over a year later, Mr. BB finds me on Match.com and writes to me. He included his phone number and said it would be great to hear from me. Thinking he still didn't want anything serious (cause it said so right on his profile), I didn't give him a second look and deleted the message. 

Not even 20 minutes later, I get a text message from him.

This is when my contact storing method comes into play! 

I had stored him in my phone as "Sexter/Player (Name) From _____", so right away when he texted me, I knew who it was and didn't have to play the "Who is this? I lost my contacts awhile back" game.

He tried to explain he was ready for something serious, had a great job now and wanted to take me out...but then followed it up with "Send me a Pic of Your body"...uh..NOPE! Hasn't changed! When I called him out on that, he told me that he felt comfortable with me already cause we knew each other, so it should be okay. HAHA.

Mr. BB, sorry...but not gunna happen!

12/10/2010: Mr. Local

Friday

Location: Starbucks, TO

Any guy that works with children for a living is alright in my book...add musical talent in there and dashing dark good looks and you've got yourself a date there sir!

Mr. Local started out doing musical therapy for children which turned into a more counseling position, and I find that very admirable. Tough work for a seemingly sweet guy. While not the "All-American" look I usually go for, he was an attractive specimen. Do note the location though: Starbucks. If you've been following me at all, you know I met at Starbucks when I am not really sure I am going to like someone. Easy in/out if need be when meeting for coffee (or in my case tea)...There is no required hour long dinner or 2 drink minimum. You can sit, talk and leave at any time.

In this case, Mr. local got there before I did and texted me for my order. When I arrived, he had my tea waiting for me on the patio. (Please note: I would NEVER allow a guy to purchase a drink for me and have it waiting after the sun goes down...this allows way too much trust in a stranger and too much room for drugs to be stirred into my drink!) Figuring it was before 11am, I drove myself and I was in a location I am very familiar with, I allowed it.

Mr. Local was from the same area (who would have thunnk THAT one from his nickname, right?!)....and turns out we graduated from the same high school a year apart (he being a year older)...he asked if I knew anyone or still talked to anyone from his class and when I mentioned a mutual friend, Mr. Local perked right up. We spent the remaining time together (for the most part) talking about our mutual friend...well that and karaoke....It just so happened we shared a fondness for the art of making people watch you sing.

No real deep conversations with this one either, and it's still way too early to know if a relationship is in the cards, but I would hang out with Mr. Local again, if only to do a duet or two with him ;)

12/09/2010: Mr. Wisconsin

Thursday

So, is it Rutbeer or Rootbeer? Well, according to Mr. Wisconsin it's pronounced "Rutbeer"...but I guess that's just a Tomato Tamato thing...

I got a kick out of the small accent barriers we ran into throughout the 2 drinks we had. (And some laughs shared)

Mr. Wisconsin was an all-American type of guy, and was a bit old fashioned or mid-western, which I dig. Oh, and he could keep up with me and my sarcasm and wit...not an easy feat for most! :D
I found it was very easy to talk to Mr. Wisconsin and I was quite comfortable around him.
There was no deep conversation about life or anything, just the usual ice breaking topics, the general back stories and the like...so we would have to hang out again to really learn something about one another, but it was a nice first date.
He did pay for the drinks (Happy Hour pricing), but he gets an extra point for taking care of the bill while I was in the restroom...therefore no purse dance necessary, which is very nice!...Although, he didn't walk me to my car, which a gentleman should always do.
I got along with him well enough to warrant a second date, if he were to ask...but it's been 2 days without a call or text, so perhaps he didn't feel the same. Either way, I am still sleeping at night! :D