A friend of mine sent this link to me and it really put a lot of things in perspective. If you have the time, take 10 minutes out of your day to read this blog titled "LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH"
http://markmanson.net/love/
It makes some amazing points!
August 26, 2014
Everything happens for a reason
"They" say that everything happens for a reason... I am not totally sold in this rationalization.
Like most in this life that have had a curve ball thrown at them, I am guilty of spouting this life mantra at any opportunity in hopes that I will someday fully believe in it's message; but too often I am faced with my own counter productive thoughts and it gets me thinking that maybe we get in our own way in thinking the grass must be greener to admit we have fucked up our own lives and this saying that has become so popular and well received is just a way for us to pass the blame onto something out of our control.
I had dinner with my ex husband tonight and while we got married too young, too fast and had our reasons for divorcing that (at the time) were total deal breaker, end of the world issues...after 11years, we still had that initial connection and comfortableness and not given our history, if this would have been a first date, who knows; it may have worked out now. The reasons we split, which was that I wanted kids and he didn't, were null and void now, given I was still without children and he had since considered a life and future with them.
Did we split because of that or because we were scared? Would we have worked out in the end, growing 11years older together? Were we really destined to stay together and it got messed up because of fear? Or were we really meant to fall madly in love and divorce after just 3 short years? Did it happen for a reason?!?
Thinking back on the last 8 years, have I really grown and changed so much? Has anything super amazing happened to me that wouldn't have happened if we had stayed together? I could have traveled the world with him as that Is all he wanted before he settled down with kids and has since done it himself; instead I was in a 7year off/on mentally abusive relationship that ruined me and have since been on date after date with random guys on different levels of terrible. I've floated through life without a map for years hoping I'd find the kind of spontaneous love we had at one point.
I've been through a lot in this life and one of the most difficult was the divorce. At the time I thought I was doing the right thing but looking back I am not so sure. Sure, we wanted different things at the time but I still don't have what I wanted, so am I better for it? Is there still a reason why it happened the way it did? Am I just not remembering everything that occurred to lead us to the breaking point, causing my recollections to be clouded by misjudgment? Would we have become broken at some point in the future had we stayed the course?
We can't live in the 'what if's', I'm aware, and I am sure that everything does happen for a reason but just for a moment picture it doesn't. Think about it. We only say that because we feel sad about something. What if everything happened the way you hoped. We'd never say it!
It's a moot point now; the ex wanted to meet to say goodbye as he got a great job up north and is moving in the next 2 weeks. We'd been cordial
Over the years and kept in contact here and there. Our issues with one another were circumstanial and never personal. He is a good guy and I wish him all the luck in the world on this new chapter in his life. While I may be on the fence about 'everything happens for a reason', I am adien believer in 'when one door closes another opens'!
While everything might not happen for a reason, one fact remains; we have to live with the decisions we make....and that's the truth!!!!
August 23, 2014
I know a friend who has a friend.....
One of the single's most dreaded phrases is, "I know a friend who has a friend that is single!". Like it is so rare that another human being our age is actually still single!
Meaning, they want to set you up with a perfect stranger and think they are PERFECT for you just simply because we are both still single.
I give in every time because the desperate Disney princess inside me kicks and screams at my more rational pessimistic, realistic side until she gets her way.
In this life, you really never know and I might as well meet as many people that come my way. The problem with this is that if it doesn't work out, you have to break it to the friend that introduced the two of you. This can get awkward. If it doesn't work out you run the risk of running into the date at a bbq or event. Hopefully the feeling was mutual but even that isn't something you really want; As a girl, we want the guy to become infatuated but not creepy. Pining over you for months with the thought of "what if" running in his head while he tries over and over to win your affection.
Ladies, this doesn't happen in real life.
You tell a guy NO once or even give off body language that you are not interested in THAT way and you never hear from them again. Even if you are into the guy and flirt and give all the "right" signs, you may never hear from him again! If you try to play a "game", you lose. If you put it all out on the table, you lose. So why continue trying?
Because you never know when your losing streak will change...
Which is why I keep trying and never say no to a setup.
Everyone's luck in love changes at some point....right?
I have to keep believing that.
I went on 2 setup dates last week. One to a Thai restaurant and while I had the BEST Thai yellow curry ever, not much else was great. He seemed like a nice fella but not my cup of Thai iced tea....he texted me the day after but never tried to setup a follow up 2nd date, which didn't break my heart. I could go on and on listing things that I didn't like about him but what's the point? He just wasn't for me; even though he shared a love of costume parties. LOL
the 2nd date was at a burger bistro/bar place that I chose. The conversation was decent but he was self proclaimed arrogant ass...I don't do arrogant well. He was techy and knowledgeable but seemed a little too "high and mighty" for my liking. I was obviously not to his liking either since he never contacted me after our date. He seemed to be one of those smart guys who think they can get a super model and they usually do! I am no super model nor would I want to be one. I want to be loved and known for my brains, not (JUST) my beauty ;)
Meaning, they want to set you up with a perfect stranger and think they are PERFECT for you just simply because we are both still single.
I give in every time because the desperate Disney princess inside me kicks and screams at my more rational pessimistic, realistic side until she gets her way.
In this life, you really never know and I might as well meet as many people that come my way. The problem with this is that if it doesn't work out, you have to break it to the friend that introduced the two of you. This can get awkward. If it doesn't work out you run the risk of running into the date at a bbq or event. Hopefully the feeling was mutual but even that isn't something you really want; As a girl, we want the guy to become infatuated but not creepy. Pining over you for months with the thought of "what if" running in his head while he tries over and over to win your affection.
Ladies, this doesn't happen in real life.
You tell a guy NO once or even give off body language that you are not interested in THAT way and you never hear from them again. Even if you are into the guy and flirt and give all the "right" signs, you may never hear from him again! If you try to play a "game", you lose. If you put it all out on the table, you lose. So why continue trying?
Because you never know when your losing streak will change...
Which is why I keep trying and never say no to a setup.
Everyone's luck in love changes at some point....right?
I have to keep believing that.
I went on 2 setup dates last week. One to a Thai restaurant and while I had the BEST Thai yellow curry ever, not much else was great. He seemed like a nice fella but not my cup of Thai iced tea....he texted me the day after but never tried to setup a follow up 2nd date, which didn't break my heart. I could go on and on listing things that I didn't like about him but what's the point? He just wasn't for me; even though he shared a love of costume parties. LOL
the 2nd date was at a burger bistro/bar place that I chose. The conversation was decent but he was self proclaimed arrogant ass...I don't do arrogant well. He was techy and knowledgeable but seemed a little too "high and mighty" for my liking. I was obviously not to his liking either since he never contacted me after our date. He seemed to be one of those smart guys who think they can get a super model and they usually do! I am no super model nor would I want to be one. I want to be loved and known for my brains, not (JUST) my beauty ;)
August 22, 2014
08/21/14: Mr. Traditional
He was upfront and totally honest when we chatted via text...he had a decent job and 2 kids and was going through a divorce but was at a place where he felt he was ready for a serious relationship if the opportunity presented itself. I was honestly a little excited to meet him in person. It was refreshing to find someone local, good looking and seemingly perfect on paper.
I arrived 10 min late due to traffic and my lack of ability in calculating time and Mr. Traditional was waiting by his (work) truck in the parking lot for me.
"Kristina?" he asked as I walked past my car toward him.
"Maybe" I flirt while squinting my eyes, trying to see him through the bright sunshine.
He pulls out a bouquet of yellow flowers from the bed of the truck and hands them to me.
Immediately I blush and proclaim that no one has brought me flowers on a first date since I was 15. I hug him and he asked if I wanted to put them in the car before we head inside.
"No way! I want to show them off a little" I answer with a huge grin.
We make small talk as we walk to the front door and head inside the CAVE.
The Cave is this wine market and restaurant. The front is a storefront and the back portion is a restaurant with a self serve wine area. You put money on this card and then insert the card into the machines and choose 1oz, 3oz or 6oz of the wine of your choice and it deducts the money from the card. It's pretty cool!
Conversations are open, honest and comfortable during our wine tasting, so much so that we joked about the waitress hating us because every time she would come over to ask what we'd like for dinner we'd say we haven't had a chance to look at the menu yet.
The evening ended around 9:30pm with a hug by the car. He texted when he got home and to make sure I arrived at home safely. A gentleman. I thanked him for an enjoyable evening again and we said goodnight.
The next day we flirted back and fourth via text until I asked "So, do you want to see me again or what? ;)" His response was perhaps a little too upfront and honest....
"...I just didn't have that chemistry that I am looking for..."
It was also full of fluff and compliments but the underlined answer was "NO"
What is this CHEMISTRY ?!
Great conversation, things in common, same outlook on raising kids and family, being attracted to one another, geographically desirable, etc....these things apparently hold no weight or not enough weight compared to this mysterious CHEMISTRY that men these days "need" in order to get to know someone past a first date. I don't get it.
I get that chemistry is important but how can one person feel it and the other not?
I arrived 10 min late due to traffic and my lack of ability in calculating time and Mr. Traditional was waiting by his (work) truck in the parking lot for me.
"Kristina?" he asked as I walked past my car toward him.
"Maybe" I flirt while squinting my eyes, trying to see him through the bright sunshine.
He pulls out a bouquet of yellow flowers from the bed of the truck and hands them to me.
Immediately I blush and proclaim that no one has brought me flowers on a first date since I was 15. I hug him and he asked if I wanted to put them in the car before we head inside.
"No way! I want to show them off a little" I answer with a huge grin.
We make small talk as we walk to the front door and head inside the CAVE.
The Cave is this wine market and restaurant. The front is a storefront and the back portion is a restaurant with a self serve wine area. You put money on this card and then insert the card into the machines and choose 1oz, 3oz or 6oz of the wine of your choice and it deducts the money from the card. It's pretty cool!
Conversations are open, honest and comfortable during our wine tasting, so much so that we joked about the waitress hating us because every time she would come over to ask what we'd like for dinner we'd say we haven't had a chance to look at the menu yet.
The evening ended around 9:30pm with a hug by the car. He texted when he got home and to make sure I arrived at home safely. A gentleman. I thanked him for an enjoyable evening again and we said goodnight.
The next day we flirted back and fourth via text until I asked "So, do you want to see me again or what? ;)" His response was perhaps a little too upfront and honest....
"...I just didn't have that chemistry that I am looking for..."
It was also full of fluff and compliments but the underlined answer was "NO"
What is this CHEMISTRY ?!
Great conversation, things in common, same outlook on raising kids and family, being attracted to one another, geographically desirable, etc....these things apparently hold no weight or not enough weight compared to this mysterious CHEMISTRY that men these days "need" in order to get to know someone past a first date. I don't get it.
I get that chemistry is important but how can one person feel it and the other not?
Lost Generation
This generation is fucked! With the over sexualized adolescence, lack of moral compasses and integrity, hyped egos causing self centered, selfish self declared single forever morons, the good people with self worth, life goals and modesty are lost in the shuffle of twearking, hook up, snap chatting forever tweens!
I read this blog, and it hits the points I try to make on the head in a much more conscious flow of thoughts (LOL!; I know I tend to be all over the board sometimes!)
http://elitedaily.com/dating/hookup-culture-non-relationship-generation-getting-nowhere/664654/
READ IT! It's worth it.
Songs glorify the "new" forever single lifestyle and make it "ok" to just want f**k buddies and to get f**ked up every night, making girls "back it up" and twerk it for the guys while not caring about the future or working. What happened to creating solid, lasting real relationships and working hard? Dating used to be something you did in order to find the person you wanted to spend your forever with. Now, guys are so terrified of even labeling it as dating using words like "seeing someone" or "just hooking up". It is a shame, really and the media is only making it worse. With songs like " " being so poppy and catchy, the ideals being portrayed are sub-consciously attaching to your brain whether you want them to or not! The "I just want to have fun and not settle down" lifestyle is not only being blasted to the rap lovers and college aged kids; it is now also a popular topic among the country music scene and those over college age with Lady Anntebellums hit song "Looking For a Good Time". We are not safe in any genre now! And by "WE" I mean the old school, strong moral compass, modest, hard working, looking for the real deal seeking romance and marriage and kids types.
Some other songs I've come across this week alone that scream "STAY SINGLE AS LONG AS YOU CAN", "WOMEN ARE NOTHING BUT OBJECTS", "USE WHOEVER YOU CAN GET TO GET WHAT YOU WANT", "IT'S OKAY TO BE SELFISH"......
F**k U Over by The Summer Set
"Dirty Little Secret" by the All American Rejects
"Hangover" by Taio Cruz/Flo Rida
"Looking For A Good Time" by Lady Anntebellum
"Wobble" by V.I.C
If you want to change my mind and show me there is still hope in the world through music, post a comment with a song I should listen to!
I read this blog, and it hits the points I try to make on the head in a much more conscious flow of thoughts (LOL!; I know I tend to be all over the board sometimes!)
http://elitedaily.com/dating/hookup-culture-non-relationship-generation-getting-nowhere/664654/
READ IT! It's worth it.
Songs glorify the "new" forever single lifestyle and make it "ok" to just want f**k buddies and to get f**ked up every night, making girls "back it up" and twerk it for the guys while not caring about the future or working. What happened to creating solid, lasting real relationships and working hard? Dating used to be something you did in order to find the person you wanted to spend your forever with. Now, guys are so terrified of even labeling it as dating using words like "seeing someone" or "just hooking up". It is a shame, really and the media is only making it worse. With songs like " " being so poppy and catchy, the ideals being portrayed are sub-consciously attaching to your brain whether you want them to or not! The "I just want to have fun and not settle down" lifestyle is not only being blasted to the rap lovers and college aged kids; it is now also a popular topic among the country music scene and those over college age with Lady Anntebellums hit song "Looking For a Good Time". We are not safe in any genre now! And by "WE" I mean the old school, strong moral compass, modest, hard working, looking for the real deal seeking romance and marriage and kids types.
Some other songs I've come across this week alone that scream "STAY SINGLE AS LONG AS YOU CAN", "WOMEN ARE NOTHING BUT OBJECTS", "USE WHOEVER YOU CAN GET TO GET WHAT YOU WANT", "IT'S OKAY TO BE SELFISH"......
F**k U Over by The Summer Set
"Dirty Little Secret" by the All American Rejects
"Hangover" by Taio Cruz/Flo Rida
"Looking For A Good Time" by Lady Anntebellum
"Wobble" by V.I.C
If you want to change my mind and show me there is still hope in the world through music, post a comment with a song I should listen to!
August 8, 2014
Importance of Friends Approval
It is VERY important to get your friends' approval of a potential mate, however should it be a deal breaker?
I have a super close group of friends and their approval means the world to me. Afterall, most weekends and holidays are spent with them and the guy I end up with will need to meld well with my group of friends. I was thinking today though of all the guys I dismissed prematurely perhaps based solely on the premise that a friend didn't like them for one reason or another. Their thoughts have a huge influence on my decisions and while I know I ultimately make the choice, should their "thumbs down" be enough to not pursue a man or to end a relationship?
People can grow on you over time, sure...and a first impression can be totally false, I know this but when a friend has such a strong opinion of a guy I MIGHT be interested in, I have to take that into consideration because I know they have my best interests in mind. Friends can come and go too and while I believe the group I have now will be lifelong relationships, I too am searching for my life partner.
My bestie is married with kids and I am her reason to go out when she needs it; I am her right hand helper with the kids when I am there and she is my soul mate. I am sure she has not liked some of the guys I've dated or have been interested in for somewhat selfish reasons but I know her thoughts, advice and criticisms come from a place of love. Me finding someone would mean less time with her and I don't necessarily want that, so I need to find someone who is okay with this and hopefully gets along with her husband well enough so that I don't have to worry about feeling guilty for always "ditching" him to hang with her. Somewhat selfish on my part, I get that but being older and "wiser" and knowing my way around the dating pool and relationship realities I have to take these things into consideration.
One girlfriend might like the guy I am seeing while the others think he is "too old" for me or "doesn't have a good enough job" or "just looks weird with [me]". The criticisms really never end so how does one filter and decide what friends to listen to and which ones to ignore? It is easy to "say listen to your heart or gut or intuition" and "make up your own mind/decision" but when you are so close to people you spend the majority of your non working hours with, you have to listen to them a little, right?
How important do you think your close friends approval is when dating?
I have a super close group of friends and their approval means the world to me. Afterall, most weekends and holidays are spent with them and the guy I end up with will need to meld well with my group of friends. I was thinking today though of all the guys I dismissed prematurely perhaps based solely on the premise that a friend didn't like them for one reason or another. Their thoughts have a huge influence on my decisions and while I know I ultimately make the choice, should their "thumbs down" be enough to not pursue a man or to end a relationship?
People can grow on you over time, sure...and a first impression can be totally false, I know this but when a friend has such a strong opinion of a guy I MIGHT be interested in, I have to take that into consideration because I know they have my best interests in mind. Friends can come and go too and while I believe the group I have now will be lifelong relationships, I too am searching for my life partner.
My bestie is married with kids and I am her reason to go out when she needs it; I am her right hand helper with the kids when I am there and she is my soul mate. I am sure she has not liked some of the guys I've dated or have been interested in for somewhat selfish reasons but I know her thoughts, advice and criticisms come from a place of love. Me finding someone would mean less time with her and I don't necessarily want that, so I need to find someone who is okay with this and hopefully gets along with her husband well enough so that I don't have to worry about feeling guilty for always "ditching" him to hang with her. Somewhat selfish on my part, I get that but being older and "wiser" and knowing my way around the dating pool and relationship realities I have to take these things into consideration.
One girlfriend might like the guy I am seeing while the others think he is "too old" for me or "doesn't have a good enough job" or "just looks weird with [me]". The criticisms really never end so how does one filter and decide what friends to listen to and which ones to ignore? It is easy to "say listen to your heart or gut or intuition" and "make up your own mind/decision" but when you are so close to people you spend the majority of your non working hours with, you have to listen to them a little, right?
How important do you think your close friends approval is when dating?
August 6, 2014
There's Nobody Left, I'm All Alone + one year!
EEK!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H-gfxjAaZg0
Saw this and it made me laugh until I realized I am one year older than the 31!
Since I am a Gemini, I tend to go back and forth with my thoughts on dating. Some days I feel like the 29 year old and others, most others I feel like 31. To be honest the days I feel like 29 are getting less and less frequent but they do happen and I need to try to hold onto those days because feeling like 31 sucks! Especially since I am 32 now and possibly even more angry/scared I won't ever find someone.
A good watch though if you get the chance, just for a good laugh if nothing else.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H-gfxjAaZg0
Saw this and it made me laugh until I realized I am one year older than the 31!
Since I am a Gemini, I tend to go back and forth with my thoughts on dating. Some days I feel like the 29 year old and others, most others I feel like 31. To be honest the days I feel like 29 are getting less and less frequent but they do happen and I need to try to hold onto those days because feeling like 31 sucks! Especially since I am 32 now and possibly even more angry/scared I won't ever find someone.
A good watch though if you get the chance, just for a good laugh if nothing else.
August 4, 2014
This, That or Terrible!
It's hard being single.
Every time you go out you think you might meet the love of your life. It forces you to go out when you might otherwise go home. It gives you a false sense of needing more mascara. If I had a man already I feel like I would have less stress in my life, less worrying about when it will happen. Less need for the fake smile while sitting at the bar alone wondering if anyone is looking...I could just enjoy a glass of wine alone without feeling judged or at least without caring!
Tonight I got hit on by two extremes. The old guy bragging about his life and all he has and the young entrepreneur starting out and him bragging about all that is about to come to
Him...while all the other guys in the bar stared at the tv screens as Miley Cyrus gyrated on teddy bears symbolizing all other males in this generation of dating! I feel that they all fall into one of these three genres or they are of decent age and just dating someone way too young for them and trying to stay entertained by their incessant babbling while at the bar just to stay with the hot young 'thang' to stay relevant to their male peers. A shame, really.
Granted, I can be overly critical and I am not sure if it is because I am trying to find something I don't like about every guy because I don't give it a fair shot, am going on my instincts and know he isn't the one or if I am too jaded, perhaps too smart to end up with the wrong one or maybe too dumb to not just go with whatever. I am hoping that once I find Mr. Right the little annoying things he does won't bother me so much and I will give him enough time to win me over. I am hoping that something will feel right enough in my gut to give him the opportunity to try at the very least. I do dismiss guys easily for one reason or another and I know that there is the right person out there for them just as there is for me and just because I didn't like them doesn't mean they are bad guys necessarily. A guy will make the time and change bad habits for the right woman. If I wasn't it, that's fine because in the end it will all be for the best.
The search is all part of my journey and it will allow me to appreciate him once I find him all that much more. the problem is just finding that one guy worth my appreciation after all this time! Guys don't mature much past the age of 16, I've found. Horny, stupid, non romantic assholes; most of them are!
Granted, I can be overly critical and I am not sure if it is because I am trying to find something I don't like about every guy because I don't give it a fair shot, am going on my instincts and know he isn't the one or if I am too jaded, perhaps too smart to end up with the wrong one or maybe too dumb to not just go with whatever. I am hoping that once I find Mr. Right the little annoying things he does won't bother me so much and I will give him enough time to win me over. I am hoping that something will feel right enough in my gut to give him the opportunity to try at the very least. I do dismiss guys easily for one reason or another and I know that there is the right person out there for them just as there is for me and just because I didn't like them doesn't mean they are bad guys necessarily. A guy will make the time and change bad habits for the right woman. If I wasn't it, that's fine because in the end it will all be for the best.
The search is all part of my journey and it will allow me to appreciate him once I find him all that much more. the problem is just finding that one guy worth my appreciation after all this time! Guys don't mature much past the age of 16, I've found. Horny, stupid, non romantic assholes; most of them are!
Tech Savvy?
It has been 2
months, 3 weeks as of today....I think it might be time to get
back on the grid and Tinder/online "date" again...I don't know how else to meet people
anymore! Everyone is so busy with their social media and twittering and
graming that they don't look at people in their everyday life; they don't
look up from their phones long enough to catch a glance at the gas
station or grocery store anymore! In my 2 month social experiment of old school "dating/meeting", this is what I've found.
...Guys are just looking for the skinny model types because they have been conditioned into thinking that's the norm and what every girl should look like. I need to find a real man who can handle a real woman. should I try match again or eharmony or something like that?! Where are all the single good guys hiding out? Church?
I've been going to church for the last month and tried 2 different churches so far; we still have yet to find our church "home" and will be trying out a few different ones (By "we" I mean my best friend, her kids and I). While I am not going just to meet a nice guy, I have looked around at the 2 churches we've gone to and not seen one single potential! It could just be that I live in the damn suburbs and everyone attending church is a family, an old person or a teen being forced to still go by their parents.
In the last couple months I've even tried changing my hair color to something more natural and dark to see if it was my platinum blonde that was attracting the wrong type of guy and that hasn't seemed to have much of an affect. Single dudes in my age range are all just pigs, no matter what. I had a theory that guys like to "play" with blondes and settle down with brunettes; but this has been de-bunked in my testings. While girls are nicer to me with brunette hair, guys seem to be about the same. They all just want one thing and it doesn't much matter with who!
What if my match is tech challenged? Not everyone is as savvy as I initially thought in today's world. While the majority of people 27-37 are knowledgable enough to work a Facebook page, I have recently met some people who are not willing to go "online" either out of fear of having any personal info out there or out of sheer lack of knowledge when it comes to computer technology. Is it really fair to limit myself to only men who know their way around a keyboard? Should I be limiting myself to tech savvy men since it is really a necessity in this day and age? I am so confused!
the dating game has changed and this is the truth! It has become just as technological as anything else these days and I will need to pay in order to find anyone worth my time. While some say the world is getting smaller, I think it is getting much larger in the fact that I can find a "match" across the globe, where just a hundred years ago women had to settle for a man that lived in their own town or happened to be traveling through their own town. They woman of yesteryear didn't have as many options as we do today but there in lies the problem; men too have more choices and due to this don't want to settle down because they think someone better will come along thus perpetuating the issues of dating in todays world!
Hopefully one of these days I will be able to say it all happened for a reason and laugh at the struggles I had and say it lead me to the man of my dreams but until that day comes, I will continue to vent my dating woes to the deaf ears that is the internet.
...Guys are just looking for the skinny model types because they have been conditioned into thinking that's the norm and what every girl should look like. I need to find a real man who can handle a real woman. should I try match again or eharmony or something like that?! Where are all the single good guys hiding out? Church?
I've been going to church for the last month and tried 2 different churches so far; we still have yet to find our church "home" and will be trying out a few different ones (By "we" I mean my best friend, her kids and I). While I am not going just to meet a nice guy, I have looked around at the 2 churches we've gone to and not seen one single potential! It could just be that I live in the damn suburbs and everyone attending church is a family, an old person or a teen being forced to still go by their parents.
In the last couple months I've even tried changing my hair color to something more natural and dark to see if it was my platinum blonde that was attracting the wrong type of guy and that hasn't seemed to have much of an affect. Single dudes in my age range are all just pigs, no matter what. I had a theory that guys like to "play" with blondes and settle down with brunettes; but this has been de-bunked in my testings. While girls are nicer to me with brunette hair, guys seem to be about the same. They all just want one thing and it doesn't much matter with who!
What if my match is tech challenged? Not everyone is as savvy as I initially thought in today's world. While the majority of people 27-37 are knowledgable enough to work a Facebook page, I have recently met some people who are not willing to go "online" either out of fear of having any personal info out there or out of sheer lack of knowledge when it comes to computer technology. Is it really fair to limit myself to only men who know their way around a keyboard? Should I be limiting myself to tech savvy men since it is really a necessity in this day and age? I am so confused!
the dating game has changed and this is the truth! It has become just as technological as anything else these days and I will need to pay in order to find anyone worth my time. While some say the world is getting smaller, I think it is getting much larger in the fact that I can find a "match" across the globe, where just a hundred years ago women had to settle for a man that lived in their own town or happened to be traveling through their own town. They woman of yesteryear didn't have as many options as we do today but there in lies the problem; men too have more choices and due to this don't want to settle down because they think someone better will come along thus perpetuating the issues of dating in todays world!
Hopefully one of these days I will be able to say it all happened for a reason and laugh at the struggles I had and say it lead me to the man of my dreams but until that day comes, I will continue to vent my dating woes to the deaf ears that is the internet.
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