Instant Messaging/Texting

Guys, if I happen to talk to you over instant messaging on any site or through texts, think of it as if I were talking to you face to face! Don't open with a comment on how you like women in heels cause they "double as handle bars", or ask questions like "Whats your favorite sexual position" or give a compliment such as "I bet you F$%& like a porn star" or "You have a mouth that looks like it can...." (I'm not even going to finish that one!) Okay? Those are just not first talk discussion topics! Inappropriate! Keep it simple, guys. 

Some talking points:

*Family: Ask about siblings, where you both grew up, ask about any nieces or nephews...but don't ask if her sister is hot!

*Hobbies outside of work

*Ask about friends and what you normally do with your friends.  This can gain insight into how they interact with others in social settings. Is he/she a loner or does he/she only go out to bars/clubs?

*Favorite Foods, Music, Movies, Drinks etc. (great way to learn of their culinary experiences/tastes and to see if they are an alcoholic)

*Ask about traveling: Where you both have been, where you want to go...


*Career Plans (for girls, this is a great way to see how much ambition a guy has)...I don't mean talking about your current jobs- cause who wants to talk shop? I mean like the infamous "What do you wanna be when you grow up" type of topic.

*Sports: Does he/she like them? Which ones? Prefer watching on tv or live events? Does he/she play any sports?

*Dealbreakers: What are some things that you will not stand for with dates/relationships?

*If all is going well, THEN you go in for the kill and talk about future plans the two of you can make. I'm not talking way future like wedding and kids, I mean dinner date, wine tasting, hiking, etc.

Stay away from:
*Past relationships (unless SHE brings it up)

*Politics

*Religion (in depth)

*ANYTHING SEXUAL (again, unless SHE initiates)
 
*Future plans such as wedding talk, how many kids he/she would want to have with you, etc. (It HAS happened!)...Don't ask how many dates it will take to reach "boyfriend" status!

*Try to avoid video game talk, guys. MOST women are not into them, and if they say they are, she is likely lying through her teeth to try to find some common ground with you because you are so unbelievably dull!